We are thinking that the easiest thing to do and what would give Gif the least amount of hassle is to have everyone donate to the guild account and after our "deadline" (2 weeks?), we will cut her a check, put it in a card with everyone's names who donated and mail it to her. This way, all she needs to do is give us her address and it's all taken care of.

The loss of a friend, loved one or partner is never easy and on small children the loss is almost never understood until many years later. There are no comparisons as each person deals with loss in their own way. I truly feel for you and your children and I pray that you will have what you need both physically and spiritually to survive. If we, your on-line family, can do anything to help (even if only a small donation) I hope that it will be enough as we try our part to see you through this.

Wabo made me feel at home from my first day with VS. His candor, wit and humor will be missed.

Who might people PM to say who the message is from? There wasn't really a note space in which I could put "From Lyranne," and my real name is (a) not of use in identifying me and (b) not for public consumption because I am a privacy nut.

I sent Lux a PM.

Agnes, your avatar made me sort of smile, and then made me do a very sad face, and sort of smile again while still doing a very sad face.

Dammit.

Agnes, your avatar made me sort of smile, and then made me do a very sad face, and sort of smile again while still doing a very sad face.

Dammit.
Me too. :(
I miss him.

Me too. :(
I miss him.

This discussion made me turn avatars back on so I could see what you were talking about and now I am also sad.

I know we usually don't share real names but if possible can we know Wabo's real name?
Are you friends with Char on Facebook? You'll see his name listed in her relationship status.

I figured if we got any donations from people we are unsure about, I'd ask around. But if you totally don't want me asking, just PM me first. I won't sell your info to identity pirates.

trying to use the front page donation button and it locks up my iexplorer .. can someone maybe just post the link here too? pls

Are you friends with Char on Facebook? You'll see his name listed in her relationship status.

Only have Rastus and Trianna as friends so far on Facebook. I have been slacking.

I am sorry for you loss :(

Gif,

I really don't know what to say, I am sorry that I didn't see this in the forums earlier. I can do nothing more than offer you my sincerest condolences for your loss. I know what it is like to lose someone so unexpectedly and can offer you advice on how my own father's death at a young age affected me. I can also sympathize if not completely empathise with your own feelings having watched my mother suffer through the loss. I will not offer you the platitudes that others will tell you. No matter what anyone will say, the pain will never truly disappear, but you will find it a bit easier to go on each day. You will be surprised how often the smallest things can trigger a memory or regret and you will find yourself years later crying all over again. I can, however, assure you that most of what you will retain are the good things and those will also stay with you forever.

I hope that you have the support to be able to take some time for your own grief now while it is fresh, you may be told that you need to be strong for your children, but they need to see that you are hurting too. Grief bottled up is one of the most damaging toxins and will eat away at you. Hold them close and let them see you cry, it will help them to release their grief as well. I know we don't know each other well, but Maublitz and I also live close (in Ottawa) so if you need the perspective of someone who has gone through this kind of pain, please don't hesitate to ask (I will PM you with our phone number).

Maublitz and I feel terribly about your loss and want you to know that we are never far away. Even if all you need is a sitter for an evening to get out and let loose - you will feel like doing that and I know what a single mother goes through to get that time to themselves.

Sincerely,
Mishkarah and Maublitz.
aka Joelle and Sean (I know we don't use names, but we don't mind sharing ours)

My deepest condolensces. :(

I'm so sorry to hear about this. I hope you are holding up okay. As many others have said, he will be missed greatly. You have my deepest condolences.

As the others have said - Wabo made us feel welcome to VS. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Reach out to us, anytime. We will do all we can for you and the children.

Thanks for the updates, Char!

And PS - I love your kids' names! I was begging my brother to name their newest addition "Isabelle"... I lost the fight though.

As usual, I am extremely late on the uptake and forum checking, so I've only just seen the news now.

Many have expressed these same sentiments before me, but still, I am terribly sorry to hear this news, and my deepest sympathies go out to Gifchick, and all of Wabo's family and friends. I'd also like to make the same offer many others did - if there's anything I can do to help in any way, I'd be more than happy.

I think today at lunch I will have some poutine in his honor. :|

OMG Gif...sigh...omg. You and your family have my deepest sympathies. I hope you're holding up well and have much close support.

Im so so sorry.

He will be missed.

:(